A Boss Is Not A Leader!

People often describe leaders as power-hungry, driven by a desire for their views and opinions to dominate in a government, business, community, or country. Critics frequently confuse their targets as bosses rather than leaders. Understanding the difference between a boss and a leader is essential; not recognising this distinction makes a boss's life much easier!

 

The Boss

We've all encountered the wrath of a boss determined to get their way. Bosses are easy to recognise; they excel at directing people, especially those lower in the organisational hierarchy. Interestingly, they tend to treat those higher up more favourably. This behaviour stems from the boss's belief that those in top positions are the brightest and best at telling others what to do. Consequently, while bosses maintain a tight grip on the organisation, they often focus on achieving their objectives through their immediate circle, neglecting employees lower down the ladder or those who may be more outspoken and challenging to manage.

 

Bosses often rely on intimidation. For instance, they might say, "If you don't do this, I will do that, so listen up!" Their focus is on their desires, quashing or ignoring any resistance. They often claim that changes are necessary, but what they mean is that their agenda must be followed. To maintain control, they establish numerous rules and regulations that reinforce their authority. They can be hard-hearted, sometimes indifferent or paternalistic towards those less fortunate. A boss might impose unrealistic deadlines and blame the team for not meeting them or take credit for their successes while attributing failures to them.

 

As I navigated the challenging terrain of management, many of my peers were tough individuals, and I, too, transformed into a tough character. Being a senior executive in a large corporation often means being surrounded by formidable colleagues, typically a mix of exceptionally talented individuals driven by a strong desire to succeed. Like me, this drive usually manifested in aggressive behaviour and a demanding temperament. Ironically, many leaders used to be bosses; I was one!

 

The Leader

Transitioning from being a boss to leadership is not easy or quick. As my management career progressed, I was fortunate to work alongside some truly impressive leaders, and I began to notice a significant difference. These individuals demonstrated how to be just as tough while genuinely caring for those who work or follow them. Leaders must possess strong character; some are vocal and assertive, while others are quiet yet equally strong. They all share an inner strength, are focused on success, and are driven to do what is necessary. 

 

Another common trait among these leaders was their courage; once convinced of the best path forward, they moved decisively to achieve their goals without hesitation. Their courage was contagious, inspiring those around them to be bold and decisive in their leadership roles.

 

Additionally, leaders can connect with ordinary people, often turning them into loyal followers. Simple acts like spending time with people or ensuring everyone's voice is heard demonstrate this connection. Leaders do this without fear or favour, a practice often called having the "common touch." They don’t look down on people; they seek to meet and engage with them. They understand that listening to ordinary individuals is key to effective leadership if they want to uncover the unvarnished truth. This approach fosters a sense of community and ensures everyone's perspective is valued in decision-making.

 

I can relate to being one of those loud-mouthed and awkward individuals. Fortunately, I had mentors who recognised the leadership qualities hidden within me. So, the next time you hear someone described as a leader, take a moment to assess whether they genuinely embody that role. You will know they are true leaders because you will feel compelled to follow them to success.